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There is a harsh reality in life, a trend that has been going on forever. We all get sucked into it if we are not careful, it steals our happiness, our joy, and our time. This life stealing reality, is the mind-set of looking toward the future instead of living in today.
This is a life trend that has been going on for as long as life has been on earth, I am sure of it. I do believe our fast paced, social media obsessed culture is in greater danger of falling into this trend more than ever before. We are able to compare ourselves with other people’s lives, daily. We think we need to keep up with the people we look up to, or people who are our ages and “seem” to be doing so much better than we are.
We feel a pressure to get married, have children, purchase the perfect house, have the perfect job, purchase the perfect car, have the perfect clothing, have another child, and so on. We are so focused on what “should” come next, that we are missing the meaning of life. Our joy is sucked out of us the second we see that someone else is doing better, even if you try to convince yourself that you don’t care, you do!
We are spending our 20’s and 30’s obsessing over how much easier it will be once our children get just a little bit older. How much money we will save when they get out of diapers or go to school so we don’t have to pay daycare. We focus on how our lives will be complete once we are able to save enough money to get that large purchase that will make us happy and make our lives easier.
In the time that we spend planning for the next part of our lives. What is happening friends? Our lives are continuously going behind us, the memories we could be making with our children or our significant other are diminishing. While we are spending this time planning on making our lives easier, it could be easier right now! Quit planning so much!
Then, we are spending our 40’s and 50’s trying to pass through the teenage and college years. Once our teenagers get older they will start to treat us better again. Once they are past college age we will start to save money again, and our worries will go away. So we wish those years away, again waiting for things to get easier for us.
Next, we are in our 60’s and our children are older, we are wishing to get those weddings over with so we can save for retirement and have some leisure time. Now, we hope our children will have children and that they will come visit us from time to time.
Friends, why are we doing this? To be honest, I see this trend, I know it is wrong. Still, day-to-day it is a struggle to not fall into this trend. It is so hard not to fall into it because that would mean that we would have to be different, and being different is scary.
The way I see it. If you are different, and you go against what this world is saying is “right” and go forward with what you know is right. That is where you will find happiness. Spend time with your family, don’t be a statistic of a broken family, because of an addiction of over spending money, or spending so much time on your phone that your family is feeling neglected.
-Declutter your home, donate, have a yard sale. (the less you have, the less you have to clean and take care of)
-Do not buy anything until you go through your check list. (I will talk about this in an upcoming post, and link it here)
-Set a “phone time” in your home. (Electronics time is from “this time-to-this time”, EVERYONE in the house has to follow this rule)
-Play outside as a family.
-Play inside as a family.
-Everyone pitch in to clean the house, quickly. It does not have to be perfect. I was once told by a wise older lady, “the cobwebs will still be there in a few years, but your children won’t.”
-Read with your children every night.
-Tuck your children in each night, one at a time, so they each get alone time to talk with you.
-Make spending time with your spouse a priority, each day. Don’t get to where you don’t know each other, your children need parents with a good relationship. If you are happy, they are happy!
Focus on today and only today. Let yourself plan for the future, but only during a certain small amount of time each week or day. Have a planning journal where you write your plans down. Leave it in the journal until next time, don’t obsess over your plans. A plan could be broken in an instant, because only God alone has the true plans. We are not guaranteed tomorrow, so enjoy today!
Know that you are beautiful, feel beautiful in your own skin! Not tomorrow, or when you lose a certain amount of weight. Love yourself now, you are perfect today!
I love love love this dress, it is of great quality and comfort! I am so excited for spring and summer weather so I can get some use out of this beauty! The Royal Blue keeps selling out, so keep an eye out, as will I for you girls who like this color. All of these colors below are still in stock! Get yours quick because they sell out fast! I went with Royal Blue because I am in KY. Honestly, I would have gone with any color to get this dress!